Ma'am!? How Dare You!?!?

Either people are pretentious, insecure, or are way too age conscious. I call a lot of women "ma'am" especially at the restaurant, but I was floored the other night to find two tables in the same night making some negative comment on being called ma'am.

A four top came in, and I carried their bar drinks over to the table when seating them. I said to the one of two ladies,"Here's your drink, ma'am." Then she said,"Ma'am? Whoa..." and the gentleman in her party said,"Yeah, that's intense." I'm thinking wtf is wrong with you people. So I said,"Miss??" And she said,"That's better." Unbelievable!! First off this woman looked in her late 30's early 40's...I myself look around mid-20's. Second, her server said she was obnoxious the whole time.

At another four top, I said to the woman,"Here is your menu, ma'am." The gentleman at the table said to me,"Does she look like a ma'am to you?" I'm like, deja fricking vu...what is up with people. This time I refused to say "miss" to give the ass the satisfaction unless he directly told me to say "miss." In addition, this woman was definitely in her 50's.

I told my manager about the first woman who got mad about being called ma'am, and he said,"When she leaves, I'll say 'Have a nice night, MA'AM!'"

What do people want me to say..."Yo, you!"